Q: How should I respond when thanked by a third party for helping another person? I am happy to say “You’re welcome” when someone thanks me on their own behalf, but I feel terribly awkward when it is a third party, particularly when I don’t feel my efforts are at all above and beyond. While the issue isn’t a critical one, I would like to come up with a better response than trying to change the subject, which has been my response so far.
A: SEA SMITH SAY YOU NEED BE MORE FORCEFUL, TO GET OVER AWKWARD. TRY “I LIKE HELPING. BY HELPING, MEAN RAPE!” THAT WHAT SEA SMITH SAY. HE ‘HELP” ALL OF TIME. SEA SMITH SURE YOU NOT GET MORE AWKWARD THANK YOU.
Q: We have two sons in their 30s who were taught at a young age to say “thank you,” and were encouraged to write thank-you notes to the senders of gifts they received. We modeled gratitude in our behavior, as well.
Fast-forward to the past few years. They have both moved many states away, so gift-giving is remote and we are rarely present when gifts are received. Sadly for us, we get no acknowledgment or any form of a thank-you. In every other way, they are loving, caring people. Whenever we receive a gift or card from them, we promptly thank them, whether verbally or in writing.
We’re really at a loss for what to do. We give gifts with an open hand and have no expectations that they will like the gifts, or even keep them. I honestly don’t feel we’re giving just to get recognition. Saying something to them about this issue might be misconstrued as us asking for a thank-you, rather than a request to look at the broader issue of being grateful for others’ thoughtfulness.
The real issue is that it pains us to think that they are equally ungrateful to others; I would like to encourage them to be grateful in all ways to all people. Do you have a suggestion for broaching this subject in a loving and nonjudgmental way?
A: SEA SMITH THINK HE HELP. NEXT TIME SEND PRESENT, SEA SMITH DELIVER IT. HE THEN, IN LOVING AND NONJUDGMENTAL WAY, TELL”YOU NO SAY ANYTHING FOR PRESENT?! SEA SMITH GIVE YOU PRESENT!” AND RAPE RECIPIENT. A LOT.
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