Well, NPR Lady and I have gotten to the point of introductions to (and judgments by) our respective families. WebDom noted, “Huh, she seems normal. What did you do to her?” Next up will be Spud. I was introduced to one of her kids and yesterday to one of her siblings. So far no disasters or running away screaming, but she hasn’t met SugarFree or Riven yet. Soon.
Anyway, in the celebration mode, birthdays today include the guy who inspired the character Biggus Dickus; a woman renowned for using natural selection to cull the herd; a woman whose name keeps coming up in NYT crossword puzzles; a guy who eventually made a wrong turn and didn’t ask directions; a guy who inspired a hilariously awful movie; the spiritual father of Louis Farrakhan; the hottest Jewess ever, with a trophy to prove it; an extremely fun SciFi writer; someone who proved that not all cops are bad; and a guy second only to Adam Sandler as a sure-fire sign that a movie will be awful.
Let’s Link Link Link.
More subsidy opportunity for BAE.
Cuing us up for yet another war.
“Do you know who’s falsely accusing me of antisemitism? The fucking Jews!”
Trigger Warning: Cuteness Overload.
The Old Man fucking loves this song. So Happy Sunday!
Meh — I still like The Wedding Singer. Not everything he does is crap.
Glad to hear NPR Lady and la sua famiglia haven’t run screaming into the night or anything. Morning, all.
We watched Murder Mystery last night with Sandler and Jennifer Aniston. It was decently entertaining and I don’t like much Adam Sandler.
I like the Wedding Singer too. Mainly because itâs a love letter to the 1980s.
I’m wondering if that’s one of the only breeds of dog where you could gather that many in one place without mishap. In my experience, goldies are pathologically docile. I once attended a Thanksgiving gathering to which one of the guests brought his golden. The poor thing was dragged from pillar to post by a hyperactive seven-year-old girl. It got to the point where, when the poor dogie heard the girl calling “Au-ROHHHHHH-ra!”, she’d start to whimper…but she’d never resist the child’s manhandling (doghandling?)
“Lord Tweedmouth”
Lulz
“Milord Suck-On-Trousers” was just too obvious.
See if this goes through… the server squirrels are against me this morning. Sigh.
“There is no county in the United States where a person working a full-time, minimum-wage job can earn enough for a two-bedroom apartment”
I’m no expert here, but maybe try a one bedroom apartment? It’s bound to be cheaper. Or sell drugs out of the other bedroom for the added income.
Yeah — minimum wage should definitely be very cheap one bedroom or (more likely) share a place with friends. Like teenagers / college age kids of the past.
Where the idea came across that a starting job / job for someone with almost no skills is supposed to provide full amenities is beyond me…
^This. If you are on minimum wage, you are starting out in life. Adults almost never sit around on minimum wage unless they really suck at life skills.
The country sure got stupid, didn’t it?
Show me an actual adult working for minimum wage at a full time job.
But they neeeeeeeeed two bedrooms because of the crotchfruit they pushed out. Minimum wage isn’t just supposed to support the worker – it should support a whole family.
I made due in an detached garage turned into basically a studio apartment with my two boys after my divorce. You do what you gotta. These people are dangerous
Or get a fucking roommate like the rest of us did.
Fucking roommate. The best kind.
The second bedroom is for the OnlyFans studio
I couldn’t afford a one-bedroom apartment on my own until my mid-30s.
The people who say this stuff are dangerously mendacious.
My old asst mgr at Domino’s used the 2nd bedroom in his apt as a grow room and he seemed to do all right.
It’s BS anyway, min wage in OH take home is ~1,500$/ month I can find 2 bdr apts around me for ~700$, now 800$ for everything else isn’t great but certainly doable.
But thay would mean I have to stop my 4 streaming services and my premium account with UnerEats. You heathen!
this post is way to cheerful for this awful heat. googles alfred ny weather… got damn it I hate you people
Itâs 47 now with an expected high of 75.
Thanks, Pacific Ocean!
well here we are looking at a fucking week of 38C … currently 30% humidity
It’s been hot and humid, but only in a relative sense.
I hate you.
Steady nineties here for the last week and a half.
i think you ought to no I am feeling depressed. it is that time of the year I suppose
Of course — all the sunlight cuts into your stalking and feeding hours. Got to suck…. oops, sorry. Sensitive topic.
Come over and I’ll pour you a nice and cold local blanc de blanc.
I would if I could bring myself to drop 10k on a holiday…
I can’t even enjoy a birthday whisky properly due to the heat… I am drinking one but not that enjoyable
Is it your birthday, Pie??? Happy Birthday! đđĽłđđđđđź
thanks… a year older and not a penny richer as scrooge said…
Happy birthday, Pie… I’m surprised you bother keeping track after the first couple of centuries!
THAT is why you are depressed! Happy birthday!
Happy birthday Pie! đđđť
Happy bday Pie!
HBD đ
Buna cumpleaĂąos!
i dont talk mexican
Who in hell peed in your mamaliga?
mamaliga is for poor people
Again: who pissed in your cornmeal?
It’s a tough day for the immortal, I’d be in the doldrums too in his situation.
the world. nature. the gods.
Exactly, you are Romanian after all
La mulČi ani.
mulČumesc
Good to hear the personal news, WebDom’s endorsement is taken as a big plus.
A little surprised at the positive reaction from NPR’s family though.
Joking of course, good going, OM!
She’s Catholic – so I assume so is her family…. They view it as penance for past transgressions?
I keed! I keed! đ
I hadn’t heard that the NAACP had changed its name.
I’m sure like rap music lyrics it is (D)ifferent when the right people speak it.
Obligatory.
I made it several paragraphs in but even I have my limits for derp.
In Maricopa County, Ariz. Alone, at least 12 people died from heat this year, compared to a single death in the Vermont floods.
There are probably more people in Maricopa County than in the entire state of Vermont. I can’t be bothered to look it up.
Eh… got not much better to do.
If you believe Wikipedia:
Vermont: 647,064
Maricopa County: 4,420,568
So only 6.83 times as many in Maricopa County. Small potatoes. đ
The article shill *cough*… writer would probably now say “SEE! It should be no more than 7 dying of heat to be equitable!” or something.
Equity depends on the color of the people.
Well, as long as 13% of those deaths are of color.
That is how it works, right? Death of Color?
I watched Kick Ass last night. What an excellent movie. I want to be that little girl when I grow up.
I want a Lyndsy Fonseca for myself when I grow up.
My big complaint with Kick Ass is, near the end, when the girl is going through the room of mobsters, they used an upbeat song (Bad Reputation, IIRC). The tone of the movie is much darker at that point, the upbeat music is jarring. They should have used different music.
Also, don’t listen to the commentary track. Does anyone still do commentary tracks now that everyone streams movies, instead of watching them on DVD?
âSens. Amy Klobuchar (D-Minn.) and Ted Cruz (R-Texas), who are offering the legislation as an amendment to the National Defense Authorization Act, contend the protections are needed as federal officials and their families face an onslaught of threats to their personal safety from disgruntled constituents and others.â
Seems only fair. They are in the business of creating threats to my personal safety, after all.
Nobody around here pays minimum wage and hasn’t for years. They can’t afford to if they want to have workers. XY was making $12.50 at Pizza Hut and McDonald’s was going for $14.00 when he was looking for a job last year. Taco Bell has always been hiring as long as I’ve lived in this municipality (24 years) for twice minimum wage.
Weird, heard a local bit about Dollar General paying PA minimum wage, 7-something an hour then a little later was at Rutters (gas/convenience) and they advertise they start at 17/hr.
Dollar General, in a town of 800 out in the middle of nowhere, might be able to get workers at minimum wage.
Energy prices are rising
You don’t say. Have you any theories as to why?
Speaking of “energy” I see the EPA is apparently putting a de facto ban on non ethanol gasoline
President Joe Biden’s administration on Friday denied almost all outstanding petitions from oil refiners asking to be exempted from mandates that require them to mix biofuels into their fuel.
The Environmental Protection Agency (EPA), which has the authority to issue the exemptions, denied 26 petitions from 15 small refineries who applied for waivers for the 2016-2018 and 2021-2023 compliance years, the agency said on Friday. There are still two pending petitions.
The agency also disclosed which oil refiners submitted petitions in July 2022 or later, as well as which oil refiners are participating in an alternative compliance schedule that allows them flexibility in complying with biofuel blending laws.
Under the Renewable Fuel Standard (RFS), oil refiners must blend billions of gallons of biofuels into the nation’s fuel mix, or buy tradable credits from those that do. The EPA can, however, award exemptions to some small refiners if they prove that the obligations cause them undue harm.
Biden has been trying to set the United States on track to reduce carbon emissions in the fight against climate change, with a goal of net-zero emissions by 2050.
The administration has not yet extended a waiver to any refinery, reversing the policy of former President Donald Trump, whose administration granted 34 exemptions to oil refiners for the 2017 compliance year alone.
The EPA consulted with the Department of Energy on Friday’s waiver decisions and found that none of the petitioning small refineries demonstrated they face disproportionate economic hardship caused by their RFS compliance, the agency said.
Nice work, Brandon.
I have no tolerance for ethanol contamination of my small engines. Oh, I guess I’m not supposed to have small engines, am I?
Admitting you have a small engine is the first step to getting a much larger engine.
I wouldn’t want a bigger engine on the lawnmower or chainsaw thank you very much.
Has nothing to do with reducing carbon (unless you’re a moron), it’s just political buyoffs with a healthy dose of fuck you to the consumer.
Biden Admin: “Soooooo… win/win, you’re saying?”
“The Environmental Protection Agency (EPA), which has the authority”
There is your problem.
I’m so sorry
federal officials and their families face an onslaught of threats to their personal safety from disgruntled constituents and others.
Maybe they should try not pissing everybody off.
whaddup doh’
0600, heading into work….hopefully it will be only 95 deg today instead of yesterday’s 101. Maybe Ill get home by Thursday….
TALL CALI CANS!
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Tall Cans!
Energy prices also rose 14 percent in 2022, twice as fast as inflation, according to the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics. The main driver behind that rise was âglobal calamities,â Tyson Slocum of Public Citizen told UtilityDive.
At this point, I have no problem classifying the Biden Presidency as a global calamity.
What’s that picture with the prep school jackets??
Umbrella Academy. Alternate timeline version of the characters.
NERD!
OK, thanks, never heard of it. Any good?
Not bad:
https://www.rottentomatoes.com/tv/the_umbrella_academy
2nd season was my favorite so far.
I’d give it a watch for Klaus alone.
Give Erdogan credit, he knows how to play both sides all the time and in the open. It will probably come back to bite him sooner or later.
https://www.zerohedge.com/geopolitical/hersh-exposes-real-quid-pro-quo-changed-erdogans-mind-about-sweden
. . . Erdoganââunder Bidenâs tutelage, the official asked, âfinally . . . .
Note how the official didnât actually say âunder Bidenâs tutelageâ, but the journo helpfully inserted that.
Like Biden is tutelaging anyone.
In January 1940, when the Daily Mail asked its readers to nominate the most annoying things about the War, women in uniform came top, then black-outs, followed by the BBC & over-officious use of torches. Unity Mitford was 14th, above the civil service & sympathy for Germany POWs
https://twitter.com/holland_tom/status/1680294334409629696
âWe actually have not been able to put the same protections in place for ourselves when it comes to at least trying to get our homes off of the internet. And that to me is just really an atrocity,â Klobuchar said.
You are an atrocity.
“Over 500 fans of Kate Bush gather in red costumes and dance at Sydney Park to celebrate annual Wuthering Heights day
Every July, fans all across the globe get together in various cities to dance and celebrate what’s called The Most Wuthering Heights Day Ever.
On Saturday, hundreds of dancers in red flowing frocks gathered at Sydney’s inner city park to mimic the performer’s unique choreography from her 1978 music video for Wuthering Heights.
In the haunting video, Kate dances and sings in a red dress, with the track inspired by characters in Emile BrontĂŤ’s classic 1847 novel of the same name.
The Most Wuthering Heights Day Ever celebrates the famous song worldwide in various places and coincides with Bush’s birthday.”
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-12301879/Over-500-fans-Kate-Bush-gather-red-costumes-dance-Sydney-Park.html
How much Chardonnay was consumed on that day?
They’ll be running up that bill.
Applause.
*golf clap*
Face of an angel. Never got her musically.
I’ve seen her, and she definitely can sing, but me neither.
Who?
The singer and actress Jane Birkin has died at the age of 76, according to French media.
The English-French star was known for her personal and artistic relationship with songwriter Serge Gainsbourg, and was considered a style icon in the late 1960s and 1970s.
https://www.bbc.com/news/entertainment-arts-66216417
can anyone here name a song off the top of ones head?
I can name several songs off the top of my head — just none of hers since I’ve never heard of her.
i asked cause people here seem to know obscure music
I’m intrigued
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=QfXcdP3kErA
Bonnie and Clyde?
My bad, that’s Bardot with Serge Gainsbourg not this chick.
Thatâs a great tune tho.
This? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k3Fa4lOQfbA
“The head of the Democratic party was one of many to distance himself from Robert F. Kennedy Jr. Saturday after The Post revealed the presidential hopeful spewed conspiracies that COVID-19 was âethnically targetedâ to spare Ashkenazi Jews and Chinese people.”
https://nypost.com/2023/07/15/dnc-chair-slams-rfk-jrs-claims-covid-was-engineered-to-spare-jews-chinese/
Because it came with a math test?
They’re twisting this one hard to try to damage him.
Does anyone believe for a second that the head of the Democratic Party isn’t pleased by “distancing himself” from RFK? They want him gone.
Slutty Sunday Untertitten!
https://archive.is/EqU7X
“A homeless mother sleeping in a California park was killed last week after she was run over by a lawnmower â and investigators left âchunksâ of her body strewn across the grass, her family claims.
Christine Chavez, 27, was lying in the tall grass of Beard Brook Park in Modesto around noon on July 8 when an employee riding a John Deere tractor with a pull-behind mower swept the area.
The unidentified worker said he didnât see the sleeping woman until he ânoticed a body in the grass he had already made a pass through,â Modesto police said.”
https://nypost.com/2023/07/16/california-woman-christine-chavez-dead-after-being-runover-by-lawnmower/
Damn.
Tragic, but wtf. I’m going to guess she was drunk or stoned or both because that tractor would have been very loud with a bushhog mower behind it.
And what about the worker who has to cope with that?
âWe want ordinances to change so it doesnât happen again.â
How about âno camping or intoxication in public parksâ? Would that do the trick?
Yup — that’s exactly what came to my mind as well — but I think the 9th Circuit fucked everyone over on that a while back, didn’t they?
Fair enough – if she had been in jail, she wouldn’t have been run over by a tractor and bush hog.
Chavez’s family – you mean the people that didn’t take her in so she wasn’t homeless?
Yikes!
Reminds me of a very drunken night in Denmark. I was making my way back to the country after a few hours with the Danes on their equivalent of Grad Night. A very inebriated OBE saw a nice little ditch to rest a bit (it was a 3km walk from train to farm house cause no busses were running) and it was 4 or 5am.
Told my brother about the trek home and said I was lucky I didn’t get trampled cause it was a horse trail in the early mornings.
Why wasn’t her family caring for her?
Dude, that’s everybody else’s responsibility.
Chavezâs family is now calling for justice in their loved oneâs death and for stronger city ordinances that protect homeless people
Oh now they care…
Ghetto Lottery.
My money is on heroin or fentanyl. Or both.
Still sad.
Could have already been dead when she got runned over.
Goddamn… had to check if that was where I thought it was (just a bit south of downtown, close to the Toulumne River — think I’d been there once, the underbrush towards the river was overgrown then too).
But holy hell… check the street view picture. No wonder they’re tripping over the homeless — they’ve overrun the place.
Baited by a midget possibly? I don’t know, it’s a weird story. They say evidence of another car being in the area was found.
Yeah, we donât know anything yet about what actually happened.
My first question: How does a nursing student afford a Mercedes?
As a mechanic I can tell you lots of people buy cars they can’t afford.
People make poor choices. News at 11.
does she work at Taziki part time, wear an Apple watch, and drive a Mercedes?
“Last month, Britainâs National Health Service made major news when they announced that they were banning the use of puberty blockers for children, except for those enrolled in a tightly regulated clinical trial. The decision was made after an independent review found there were âsignificant uncertaintiesâ surrounding the long-term effects of these drugs, which had previously been touted as totally reversible.
The announcement followed another major decision the NHS made last year on the same subject, which was to close Britain and Walesâ only treatment center for children with gender dysphoria: the Gender and Identity Development Service (GIDS) at Tavistock. The NHS found that the care provided at GIDS, which has operated for nearly 35 years, was ânot safe or viable as a long-term option for the care of young people with gender related distress.â
These decisions bring the UK in sync with countries like Sweden and Norway, which have made similar policy decisions about gender care for children. But all of those countries are light-years away from how the United States approaches these issues.”
https://www.thefp.com/p/when-gender-ideology-corrupts-medicine-tavistock
Also, worth reposting:
https://www.thefp.com/p/trans-activists-killed-my-scientific-paper
Bailey was at the forefront of genetic determinism research in homosexuality.
Now he’s out on his ass because he won’t tow the translion.
The US is way more paralyzed by woke nonsense than Europe for some reason. Probably started with the taboo against honest conversations about “race” and spread from there to sex, “gender”, etc.
Also, in the U.S. you have all these well-funded orgs such as the HRC (partially funded by Soros) and trans asshole billionaire Jennifer Pritzker pushing trans kids.
in shocking news, some bodies are trying to be thoughtful and reasonable and coming to the right (obvious?) conclusions
Our biology as a woman is distinctly different from the biology of a transgender woman
Woke women to MtFs: WELCOME TO THE FOLD!
MtFs: Bitch, get out. You don’t woman right and I’mma teach you bitches how.
MSNBC business channel strikes again
These are Americaâs 10 worst states to live and work in for 2023, and thereâs a big surprise at the very bottom
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We consider multiple quality of life factors, including crime rates, environmental quality, and health care. We also look at the quality and availability of childcare, which is one of the most important factors in getting parents back into the workforce.
Casting the widest possible net for workers means not turning anyone away. So we consider inclusiveness in state laws by measuring protections against discrimination, as well as voting rights. And with surveys showing a substantial percentage of women considering abortion restrictions when making a choice of where to live in the wake of the Supreme Court overturning Roe v. Wade, reproductive rights are part of this yearâs equation as well.
As North Carolina Governor Roy Cooper, a Democrat, told CNBC after being named the No. 1 State for 2023, he is worried about gains that southern states have made to become economic powerhouses in recent decades. âYou still see people going to Florida and Texas, but you begin to see deterioration over time. Site selectors will tell you these issues matter when it comes time for businesses to make tough decisions.â
New York, California, Massachusetts, Washington and Illinois are not on this list, astonishingly.
tl;dr- Texas is the worst state to live and work, if you’re the sort of “business journalist” who would rather have abortion on demand and guaranteed Democratic control of the state house than a place to live or affordable groceries.
Missouri is judged almost solely on its abortion laws. Violent crime is mentioned as an afterthought.
The hive mind really wants to control the narrative on this stuff – seems like they’re putting out basically the same article every week or so.
True, I look at it as they’re not wrong.
From the sidebar:
https://www.cnbc.com/2023/07/13/these-10-states-are-running-americas-best-economies-for-residents.html
Five states made this ‘best economies’ list that are on their list of worst states to live in. Hmm…
Let’s not chide Blue media for discouraging their Blue customers from moving to Red states.
Missouri is judged almost solely on its abortion laws.
It’s the only thing serious people care about.
Liquor laws (đ for MO), food tax…
Well, you know. Missouri’s always played fast and loose with liquor laws.
I haven’t yet been to your fine state, and I know it doesn’t affect you, but I applaud it just the same. Also, raw milk. Haven’t tried it but I should get around to it.
The I slipped and fell inside her excuse never works.
Now that the 2016 Russian narrative is blown…it was China!
https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/other/indictment-paints-tale-of-chinese-interests-and-2016-trump-campaign/ar-AA1dTRLX
Seems legit.
Oh give me a fucking break. China was supporting the guy who was more anti-China than anyone else in the campaign?
Trial balloon to test how stupid the true believers are.
Does that need to be tested at this point?
The faith must always be tested, just as it must be affirmed.
Rep. Eli Crane tells me he deeply regrets using the words âcolored peopleâ on the House floor yesterday.
Personages of coloration?
I like it
Creamy Colored Crayons?
One of my favorite essentially politics free engineering YouTube channels.
Bullets HITTING Bullets in Slow Motion – THE IMPOSSIBLE SHOT
Drugs? Ass?
Anyway I think it’s funny
Cheers!
https://www.spiked-online.com/2023/07/14/its-a-heatwave-not-the-end-of-the-world/
Unforeseeable misfortune
âUnfortunately, todayâs economic pressures have made the business no longer sustainable, and we had to make the heartbreaking decision to cease operations,â Sam Singer, spokesperson for Anchor Brewing, said in the companyâs announcement. âThe impacts of the pandemic, inflation, especially in San Francisco, and a highly competitive market left the company with no option but to make this sad decision to cease operations.â
A spokesperson said the breweryâs 61 workers will receive a 60-day notice and be provided separation packages.
Brewery workers, upset to find out the news on Wednesday, told KQED that marketing and distribution had fallen short since the sale to Sapporo Holdings Limited in 2017.
âWe saw that there were issues. Production has been down because of sales. Members were going to bars and they were asking about Anchor and couldnât get it,â said Pedro SĂĄ, union representative for the brewery workers. âBut it wasnât about people not wanting it, it was this issue of not knowing the market they had and who they were trying to sell to.â
Mayor London Breed and other city leaders said they were disappointed to see another local legacy business close down.
Why do these things keep happening? We’re doing the best we can.
Oh give me a fucking break. China was supporting the guy who was more anti-China than anyone else in the campaign?
Wheels within wheels. The Chinaman is both wily and inscrutable.
“In 2021, the National School Boards Association (NSBA) was forced to apologize after a letter it sent to the Biden administration went viral, asking for federal law enforcement to stop âdomestic terrorismâ at school board meetings. While Moms for Liberty was not mentioned by name, the letter cited several incidents at which members had protested. Since then, 25 state associations have cut ties with NSBA. At the Philadelphia summit, a handful of mothers were proudly wearing âDomestic Terroristâ t-shirts”
https://www.thefp.com/p/whos-afraid-of-moms-for-liberty
Based.
“Outside the Marriott, protesters from ACT UP Philly and the Young Communist League are registering their displeasure with an all-day âdance party protestââa strange response to the fascist threat they insist is unfolding four flights up. From beyond barricades several hundred feet away they shout at the hotel and wave signs: âPhilly is a Trans City,â âKancel Klanned Karenhood,â and âMoms for Liberty Go Home!â”
serious people
…is one of the most loathsome constructions that commies throw out there all the time.
“D.C.”, “chocolate”?
Communists wouldn’t have parliament.
I think you answered your own question there, bub.
Both the Dems and the GOP hate the idea of a populist uprising against the system.
My favorite bit was about the Young Communist League protesting against Moms for Liberty – without a trace of irony, like they were the most centrist, responsible group imaginable.
Among the many astonishing changes over the last couple of years has been the open return of communism. BLM was openly an offshoot of the CWP. That kinda blew the doors open.
For decades, calling someone a communist was kinda taboo. Nobody was an actual communist, after all. So only a krank would call someone a communist.
Now they are legion. And unapologetic. They want your stuff and your silence, and they are willing to use violence to get it.
And nobody even blinks at this.
Weird.
Are they on the SPLC list? No? Then they are nothing but respectable!
Evan is unwell. It would probably be good for me to talk to someone, as the facility I’m being put in has GRACIOUSLY allowed me a phone call a day.
I go in tomorrow. I am going to be a wreck. Well. I am already. It will further.
I am going to have conversations with myself in different voices to break the monotony. I hope my celly is cool. He’ll probably get a kick out of it. I know they won’t want to be there either.
I’ll read the room. Every adjective in Webster’s accurately describes me except “boring.” That buggy snuggles with “uneventful” as the sky roils over.
I tell my son, whose mind goes 60 miles per second, that you have to grow comfortable being alone with yourself and your thoughts. Embrace discomfort with them. Embrace the boredom.
My daughter is wired this way. I was wired this way.
I still remember the first time I ever had a moment where I didn’t have multiple ideas running in my mind. I was sitting on the porch at my grandparents house. There was nothing to do, I was trapped with 4 old folks in rocking chairs. Just sitting. Rocking. And not saying much.
The narrative in my head stopped for a moment,and I noted that I was only thinking about the fact that I wasn’t thinking anything. It lasted just a couple of seconds before it kicked off multiple threads.
I was 12. It was kind of stunning. It made me realize that I didn’t want to be like everyone else and be able to just sit and think about nothing.
Old age would help with that.
But I have had bad things happen too. Things that come to me when I am alone and it is quiet. The death of my son. My ex falling apart because of it and turning her grief and pain against me. The horrible things my wife says when her cluster migraines have been torturing her for days on end. Hurtful thoughts that run faster and faster in a loop if I have too much time and too much quiet. A sharp-as-a-tack memory that can replay every embarrassing moment from the time I was 3 years old if I let it run away from me.
I drown them out. Books work… But only when it isn’t too bad. Movies. Science podcasts. Anything. I have a waterproof speaker for the shower just for that reason. Too long in the quiet. Back when I was going through the divorce after we had all those miscarriages, I would sometimes get stuck in the shower, replaying every moment, trying to find the thing I should have said, the sign I should have scene, the path I could have taken to make it all go away. The hot water tank running out would be the impetus to rejoin the rest of the world.
Sometimes working through your pain is helpful. Sometimes it is only picking at wounds and making them worse.
I pray you find peace.
@cyto, I’m so sorry for your losses.
I’m wired this way too, which is why I know what my kid goes through. I dealt with it by filling my head (and then paper) with stories of who and what I’d like/have liked to be, mistakes I’d have liked not to have made, opportunities I’d have liked not to have passed by, people I’d have liked not to have hurt (which is why I keep my mouth shut a whole lot of the time), brains I wish I had. It hurts. It all hurts.
My life now is pretty good and I can appreciate it, and I like that I can appreciate it. I don’t say to myself, “Well, if I’d just done this instead of that, I wouldn’t have what I do have,” because that path leads nowhere good. Too many variables. I don’t say to myself, “But all these bad experiences made me stronger.” Fuck that noise. It’s true, but it’s worthless to think about.
Also, menopause made a huge difference in how I think and feel, and it changed my way of thinking about many, many things. In a lot of ways, menopause has been really good to me. In some ways, I’m feeling loss of self.
I don’t know what I’m trying to say.
I’m curious about the post-menopausal “loss of self” sensation. Can you elaborate?
I posted this on the forum a while back ago. That pretty much covers it.
Thanks!
“I don’t know what I’m trying to say”
That is about the best thing you could say. So perfect.
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A conversation where you can talk at will and not really know what you are trying to say can only be had among friends, in a place where there is love.
That is why I like this place. We are a bunch of weirdos. But it is like a family of weirdos.
@Mo: I am comfortable with myself. I like my Alone Time, which is most of my day. I also talk to myself. So does Mom. She’s an actress as well. I talk to myself to give voice to my thoughts. They take different accents and tones depending on the mood.
@Tox and everyone: If there is a talk tonight. I will happily make my debut.
Is Neph doin’ that? Ev also hopes potential Lady will be available. I’ll call her after her shift. Hrm. Evan knows he’s being stupid. That is worrisome and hopeful. They want symptoms? I’ll give ’em what they want.
Please don’t Randle McMurphy yourself.
Sunday evening Zoom? Perhaps someone (not me) could arrange one.
Dearest E! I might reconsider this, I dunno.
From the article about Roger waters being an anti-Semite… The US State Department has condemned Roger Waters for being an anti-Semite.
Uh…. Why does the US State Department have a position on Roger Waters?
Sapporo had been looking for a buyer for Anchor Brewing over the last year, but was unsuccessful in doing so, according to a company representative. Sapporo also bought the larger San Diego-based Stone Brewing this past fall.
A buyer could still come forward during the liquidation process, however.
âIt is the hope of the Anchor team that such an outcome comes to fruition, however, all decisions about the future will be in the hands of the independent, third-party,â the company said in its announcement, referring to the state-appointed entity that will sell off its assets.
SĂĄ, the union rep, said workers are hoping for a miracle.
âWe want this place to stay open, to get people working here again,â he said. âWe canât continue on this trend of industry just leaving and having people hanging out to dry.â
Hey, why doesn’t the union buy the assets and show everybody how to run a successful business?
BOOM
They may be greedy but they know their limits?
I have been watching these guys lately. They do not know the meaning of the words “parts car”.
It’s the BMW of Theseus.
Something that is flying under the radar… Biden reclassified all of the JFK documents that recently were declassified and had Tucker Carlson, among others, discussing the assassination of Kennedy as a US government act. A theory that was right up there with “the moon landing is a hoax” as insane claims that nobody could take seriously…..
Until they decided that the documents need to be classified here in 2023.
What is that all about?
Has anyone heard a justification for this? Are they just trying to divert people into conspiracy theories? Because the only reasonable conclusion seems to be “they have something to hide”. And since everyone who was actually there is dead, the “they” who has something to hide is the FBI and/or CIA.
Turns out to be nothing new. Other than the JFK files have a specific law passed and signed that is being violated (both by Trump’s admin and now Biden’s).
There was a specific law after Sandy Hook too.