Stoic Friday LXXXVIII

by | Nov 15, 2024 | Advice, LifeSkills, Musings | 54 comments

Last Week

Meditations

How to Be a Stoic

How to Think Like a Roman Emperor

Seneca’s Letters from a Stoic

If you have anger issues, this one is a great tool (h/t mindyourbusiness)

This week’s book:

Discourses and Selected Writings

Disclaimer: I’m not your Supervisor. These are my opinions after reading through these books a few times.

Epictetus was born a slave around 50 ad. His owner was Epaphroditus, a rich freedman who was once a slave of Nero. Though he was a slave Epictetus was sent to study philosophy under Musonius Rufus.

Epictetus was lame and there are some stories it was caused by his master and others that it was caused by disease.

He was a freedman when all philosophers were banished from Rome in 89 by the Emperor Domitian. He then started his school in Greece, and had many students. He did not leave any writings from his lessons, but one of his students, Flavius Arrian, took notes and wrote the Discourses.

Epictetus did not marry, had no children, and lived to be around 80-85. In retirement, he adopted a child that would have been abandoned and raised him with a woman.

He died sometime around AD 135.

He is my favorite Stoic teacher. I love his bare bones and very straight forward approach.

Following is a paragraph-by-paragraph discussion of one of his lessons. Epictetus’s text appears in bold, my replies are in normal text.

That we ought not to allow any news to disturb us

Whenever some disturbing news is reported to you, you ought to have ready at hand the following principle: News, on any subject, never falls within the sphere of the moral purpose.

News is interesting sometimes, but not worth letting it disrupt my mental state. I don’t watch the TV news for this reason, my main source of news is this website. I used to get in discussions with my mother, she could not believe that, “someone as smart as you chooses to be uninformed”. I would always answer with the “Better to be uninformed, than misinformed”. She never noticed that in spite of not watching the corporate news, I had a good handle on whatever issue she wanted to try to get me with.

Can anyone bring you word that you have been wrong in an assumption or in a desire?—By no means.—But he can bring you word that someone is dead. Very well, what is that to you?

This sounds cold and uncaring, but it is a reminder to keep yourself in control by maintaining an idea of priorities and what is inside and outside of control.

That someone is speaking ill of you. Very well, what is that to you? That your father is making certain preparations. Against whom? Surely not against your moral purpose, is it? Why, how can he? But against your paltry body, against your paltry possessions; you are safe, it is not against you. But the judge condemns you on the charge of impiety. And did not the judges similarly condemn Socrates? Surely it is no concern of yours that the judge pronounced you guilty, is it?—No.—Why, then, are you any further concerned?

None of the things listed here are anything to be concerned about if you are a perfect Stoic. I think I would have a hard time dealing with being sent to jail on a false pretense. Eventually I believe I could control my reaction, but that would take some time and effort.

5Your father has a certain function, and if he does not perform it, he has destroyed the father in him, the man who loves his offspring, the man of gentleness within him. Do not seek to make him lose anything else on this account. For it never happens that a man goes wrong in one thing, but is injured in another.[1] Again, it is your function to defend yourself firmly, respectfully, without passion. Otherwise, you have destroyed within you the son, the respectful man, the man of honor.

I have quit talking to my father for a few years now. Last time we talked I was home and we were supposed to go out to dinner. He never showed or called to explain what happened. My wife used to tell me I should call and maybe she is right, but I really don’t have anything to say to him.

What then? Is the judge secure? No; but he too runs just as great a risk. Why, then, are you afraid of what decision he is going to render? What have you to do with another man’s evil? Your own evil is to make a bad defense; only guard against that, but just as being condemned or not being condemned is another’s function, so it is another’s evil. “So-and-so threatens you.” Me? No. “He blames you.” He himself will attend to how he is performing his own proper function. “He is on the point of condemning you unjustly.” Poor devil!

Other people’s opinions of me are not on my list of things I care about. I have a small group that I would be worried if they told me they thought I was wrong about something. For the most part, I know myself and am comfortable with how I respond to things for the most part. This week is a little bit of an exception, I think I need adult supervision. When my wife is here, I go to bed on time and eat healthy. This week, I have been eating more junk out of convenience and staying up way too late reading. I need to do better at that. On the bright side, my ankle has improved to where I can walk the dogs so I plan on going back to the gym for the first time in 3 months on Monday. If I don’t sleep enough, I probably won’t be able to keep that internal promise. 5 weeks until my wife comes back.

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ron73440

ron73440

What I told my wife when she said my steel Baby Eagle .45 was heavy, "Heavy is good, heavy is reliable, if it doesn't work you could always hit him with it."-Boris the Blade MOLON LABE

54 Comments

  1. UnCivilServant

    But the judge condemns you on the charge of impiety. And did not the judges similarly condemn Socrates? Surely it is no concern of yours that the judge pronounced you guilty, is it?

    Dude, if I am being ordered to drink Hemlock, that is very much a concern of mine. And remaining stoic at that juncture is beyond the pale.

    Condemn me to die, and I am taking as many of you fuckers with me as I can.

  2. Sean

    5 weeks until my wife comes back.

    You should be out car shopping for her.

    • ron73440

      That depends on whether or not my clutch gets fixed this week.

      I love my truck, but driving it everyday through traffic is not fun.

      We have a lot of construction going on, so it’s a lot of 2nd to 3rd shifting.

      • Fourscore

        I can’t drive a stick anymore. No worries about me stealing your truck, Ron.

      • R.J.

        You could make the giant new car bow at home.

      • R C Dean

        “That depends on whether or not my clutch gets fixed this week.”

        I know a euphemism when I see it.

  3. ron73440

    For the most part, I know myself and am comfortable with how I respond to things for the most part.

    How did I not catch this on my rereading befor I submitted it?

    • UnCivilServant

      I’ve made the same redundancy error before when writing. Especially if my train of thought gets derailed while typing.

      As for the rereading befor, I can’t say.

    • R.J.

      Ha! Now you are doing it!
      *Passes Seppuku knife

    • Jarflax

      Does the redundancy impact your pursuit of Moral Purpose? It does not; it is merely an example of human fallibilty and may serve as a harmless reminder to guard oneself against errors which may harm another unjustly.

      • Jarflax

        Honest disclosure, I am a terrible stoic. I worry about things outside my control almost constantly and allow them to destroy my equilibrium.

    • ZWAK, doktor of BRAIN SCIENCE!

      You are unburdened by the rules of grammar that came before?

  4. Fourscore

    “I have quit talking to my father for a few years now.”

    My Dad was not one to show much emotion but I always knew he loved us kids. Busted his butt providing as best he could.

    It’s Deer Hunting season here now, every day my Dad sits with me in the stand. He’s been gone over 50 years but he’s still telling me to “Wait, wait, you’ll have a better shot when it comes out of the brush”. Sometimes I forget and see a white flag.

  5. Mojeaux

    I have quit talking to my father for a few years now.

    My dad’s dead. We had a complicated relationship. He loved us, for sure, and he provided for us and rescued me a few times, but … he was also a bit abusive (though not nearly to the extent his dad was, so generational curse avoided?), expected me to do everything he told me to do for my own future (“major in accounting”), and gave really bad advice. Because of his authoritarianism, I was singularly unprepared to go out into the world alone. I had the social understanding of an 11yo. I wouldn’t have ever been able to get out from under his thumb of he hadn’t died without a major paradigm/relationship shift.

    Now, with my own kids gotten to adulthood, I can see why he did some of the things he did, but I also had a lot more life experience than he did when he started having kids so I didn’t need to do those things and I didn’t give bad advice. I’m dismayed that I wasn’t any better of a teacher (especially driving teacher) than he was, but shit has to get done anyway.

    And that’s as generous as I can be about him.

    Last time we talked I was home and we were supposed to go out to dinner. He never showed or called to explain what happened. My wife used to tell me I should call and maybe she is right, but I really don’t have anything to say to him.

    I don’t put any effort into talking to people who don’t want to talk to me, especially if I’ve reached out several times without response.

    • ron73440

      The only thing I really learned from my Dad was not to get angry at my kids when they were helping me do something.

      He would always get so mad at every little thing we did wrong and then get upset we didn’t want to help him.

      Because of that, I always tried to make sure my kids had fun working with me.

      • Mojeaux

        Well, I mean, holding the flashlight for dad may be a universal experience.

        I didn’t make my kids help except to clean up, and even then I paid them because it’s a shit job. However, my very clear instruction to “make it look like we were never here” was apparently too vague.

        XY did some DIY thing for me a little while ago. I don’t remember what it was. I asked him, “How’d you know to do that?” because I wouldn’t have thought to. He looked at me all surprised and said, “You taught me that.” Oh. Hm. I just remember taking him to the lumberyard and teaching him how to make sure to get straight and true 2x4s.

  6. Brochettaward

    He was a freedman when all philosophers were banished from Rome in 89 by the Emperor Domitian.

    Imagine a world where we just banished the entire intelligentsia. I can only dream.

    • Brochettaward

      We could cordon off San Francisco and just give them that cesspit. Like Frederick the Great said. Nothing worse than being governed by self-proclaimed philosophers.

  7. DEG

    On the bright side, my ankle has improved to where I can walk the dogs so I plan on going back to the gym for the first time in 3 months on Monday.

    This is good.

  8. SarumanTheGreat

    To UCS from the deadthread:

    “Now I’ve got myself worked up with curiousity about Morton’s Israeli production operation.”

    I don’t know about Morton, but the Israelis most certainly extracting salt from the Dead Sea. They were doing it when I was there in 1969, cordoning off portions to make them even more saline than the rest of the sea. I still have a little bottle of Dead Sea water floating around somewhere.

    • UnCivilServant

      I just can’t seem to find where the shaker I got originated. It’s as if the association was scrubbed from the internet.

      • ZWAK, doktor of BRAIN SCIENCE!

        A salt scrub?

  9. The Late P Brooks

    That depends on whether or not my clutch gets fixed this week.

    What was the final diagnosis? If you said already, I missed it.

  10. UnCivilServant

    When Priorities Collide.

    New York already has three power plants operating along Lake Ontario. Those plants generated nearly half of the energy produced in upstate New York last year, according to the New York Independent System Operator, which manages the state’s power grid.

    That, combined with other energy sources above the Bronx, still won’t be enough to power a major tech expansion in New York, Hochul said.

    “The power that I’m generating from the New York Power Authority, which is generated from Niagara Falls, can do a lot of it,” she said. “But not all of it.”

    Enter Granholm. Hochul said her conversation with the U.S. energy secretary led to a pitch that could solve the tech industry’s energy needs while sparing ratepayers: small modular nuclear reactors.

    I still think no company should come here until the regulatory landscape has been cleaned out and the fraud machine broken, but I do find it interesting that after decades of rejecting nuclear, the warmists are like, “Sure, why not, radium green* is still green.”

    * I know that chernov radiation is blue, but most normies associate green with radioactive because of the radium glow.

    • Jarflax

      The power that I am generating… Ah the arrogant political idea that they are somehow responsible for things their only role in ragrd to is to make more difficult for those actually responsible.

      • UnCivilServant

        I hadn’t even noticed that – I tend to skim when dealing with statements from her or her office.

      • Ownbestenemy

        Ya that is some arrogance.

    • Not Adahn

      That, combined with other energy sources above the Bronx,

      Isn’t that an unsafe place to levitate a power plant? What if the antigrav fails?

      • UnCivilServant

        Urban Renewal! Plus disaster monies!

        Wait, you mean you actually worry about all the people crushed and proprty destroyed? How quaint.

      • Jarflax

        Not to wish anyone ill, but that anti-grav failure would change the electoral map in NY for the better.

    • ZWAK, doktor of BRAIN SCIENCE!

      What the state obviously needs is a Three Mile Long Island.

    • Nephilium

      I miss when Chick-Fil-A was more under the radar and you could get in and out in ~10 minutes even during lunch time.

      • The Other Kevin

        You just reminded me that my prog teammate was calling it “hate chicken” all weekend.

      • Bobarian LMD

        We have a Chick-Fil-A across from a Popeyes. Very comparable sandwiches.

        If there are 30 people in line at CFA and 3 people at Popeyes, you’ll have your food 10 minutes faster at CFA.

    • R C Dean

      There was one on my drive to work. I was always astounded by the lines there. Not as bad as that, but holy crap, does Chik-Fil-A have Michelin stars or something?

      • Nephilium

        That’s the part I don’t get. It’s (IMO) the best fast food chicken sandwich, but that’s not exactly the highest bar. I’ll say that I’ve yet to experience rude staff at a Chick-Fil-A, and they were always among the most accurate at getting orders right, but that’s not worth waiting 20 minutes or so for food.

      • Tundra

        I don’t get it either. It’s fine, but nothing special.

        We stopped at a Buccees (or whatever the fuck you call it) recently. I was astonished at how big the place was, how crowded is was, the staggering BMI of the average customer and the mediocrity of the brisket sandwich.

      • ZWAK, doktor of BRAIN SCIENCE!

        I tool one look at a Buckys and noped the fuck out of there. I ain’t walking that far to go take a leak while my tank is filling.

      • Brochettaward

        I’m way down with Buckey’s, and the wait at Chick-Fil-A is not as bad as you think it will be. Ever. Somehow for a fast food place, they have relatively impeccable service.

      • pistoffnick (370HSSV)

        Homophobic Chicken, that’s why.

  11. Ownbestenemy

    I am seeing more just low/mid-tier YT streamers and even Twitch streamers picking op on some highlights of Elon/Vivek and governmental FWA claims that of course, any follower of Ron and Rand Paul and a couple other politicians have been trying to get out to the public for years if not decades. At first I was thinking “Well ya! We’ve been saying that all along!”

    Then I realized, it has always been marginalized or buried or presented as “Here’s the looney Libertarians again”. I am hoping that the right messengers have been found to actually highlight the absolute waste of money, our money, has been going on.

    • R C Dean

      “Here’s the looney Libertarians again”

      To be fair, the capital-L Libertarians did make it easy.

      • Tundra

        What the fuck are you talking about? I think a homeless guy with a fucking boot on his head is the ideal messenger.

        But I agree with OBE. I’m seeing a lot of talk among normies about the issues and it white pills the shit out of me.

  12. Tundra

    Again, it is your function to defend yourself firmly, respectfully, without passion. Otherwise, you have destroyed within you the son, the respectful man, the man of honor.

    Powerful. As my kids get older I’m starting to see how important this is. Every day you are helping determine who they will become.

    Good stuff, Ron. Good luck with the clutch!

    • Nephilium

      It’s been added.

      • Not Adahn

        *tips top hat*

  13. The Late P Brooks

    The power that I am generating… Ah the arrogant political idea that they are somehow responsible for things their only role in ragrd to is to make more difficult for those actually responsible.

    just like that useless dingbat Harris saying SHE was going to build houses.

    • Jarflax

      Glasshouses, she’d build glasshouses to reeducate the wreckers and counterrevolutionary running dog lackeys. You know, us.

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